Okay, so I’m a bit of a weirdo. I do stuff like blog in public, and yet I call myself an introvert. I’ve also been a worship assistant, a choir director, a singer, and a speaker. I loved doing those things. I’m still an introvert. On one hand, I really want people to read my writing. On the other hand, interacting with people is an activity that drains my energy. Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy interacting with people. Most of the time it’s fun. But exhausting.
Self promotion, however, that’s another thing. I was raised with a very strong “thou shalt not brag” message programmed into me. I was taught to turn compliments away.
“That’s a lovely dress!”
“Oh, thank you. But it would look much better on you!”
“I love your story!”
“You’re too kind! It’s just a little thing. . .”
. . .and so on and on. It took me years to be able to answer a compliment with a simple “thank you” or “I’m glad you enjoyed it.” I still know people who think I’m an arrogant thingee if I don’t add a disclaimer or if I do show off my work. It’s a struggle, especially since I have to ignore those people who are annoyed by my putting myself out there. They don’t have my best interests at heart. They reactivate those negative childhood lessons that say I should be modest at all times careening around in the back of my head. I can be an intense and fierce supporter of other people. I need to learn how to do that for myself.
Yesterday, I went on a self-promotion death march. I posted repeatedly in different locations. I pm’d a list of people who I thought might be interested or who would at least be sympathetic to my self-promo efforts. I cringe every time I see a reply to that private message chain, even though they’ve been mostly encouraging. I’m learning to live with it. I’m learning to be more “out there” for me. It feels scary, and like hard work.
To the people who helped me out with this yesterday, I can’t say enough thank yous.
I’m sure there are other blogging, writing, selling introverts out there. Do you have any advice on how to slay the self-promotion monster?
- Caring for Your Introvert (imindful.wordpress.com)
- The truth about being an Introvert (samanthaholley1.wordpress.com)
- How to Grow Your Personal Brand When You’re an Introvert (lifehacker.com)
- Susan Cain: The Power of Introverts (kdeninno.wordpress.com)
- The Charisma Effect (chatteringcat.com)
- Batman and Iron Man – introverts and extraverts (nursefirst.wordpress.com)